Before you say, “I do” there is a very important question you must ask or be asked…
“Will you marry me?”
Proposals have very different origins and traditions depending on where you might live around the world. Traditionally in the USA, there are a few popular options when it comes to proposals:
After spending some time living in China in 2009, I noticed how much their wedding traditions differ from what I was used to. Here is the “pre-wedding” customs that a traditional Chinese couple would participate in to become engaged.
Germany has a super laid back view on engagement. Simple promise rings are given and worn during an engagement to show that the couple is still dating. There isn’t really a formal date set or rigid plans. “Engagements” are an informal way for a couple to build a life together with the intent of marriage one day.
The man follows the tradition of a romantic setting and getting down on one knee. The future bride will wear the engagement ring on the third finger of the left hand. My favorite part of GB engagement traditions is the formal announcement at church called “the banns”. The purpose is to allow time for someone to present a case as to why the couple shouldn’t be married. Yikes!
From the bride: “I had already gone to bed for the night. I woke up to the sound of tiny pebbles hitting my window. I looked out and saw Jake motioning for me to sneak out of the house. After changing clothes, I went outside to see a path of roses and candles. Each rose had a love quote or cute saying on it. The last rose read “Will you…” and the candles at the end of the path spelled “Marry me?” I was so surprised! It was so romantic and perfect.”
“He proposed at Disneyland right in front of the castle when we were “getting a picture.” It was perfect!!”
“Mine wasn’t romantic. We were sitting in my college apartment watching a movie, he kept playing with my ring finger on my left hand and I was getting annoyed because he was teasing me (I knew a proposal was coming, just not when) I told him he either needed to propose or knock it off… and he pulled the ring out of his pocket and asked if I would marry him.”
“We were watching the most boring movie about black holes at the Clark Planetarium in Salt Lake City, Utah. I always wore this beautiful opal ring my mom got me on my ring finger. He would always play with it and take it off when we were holding hands. During the movie, he swapped it out for my engagement ring. Then he leaned over and asked “Will you marry me?” I turned to him, jokingly said yes, and turned back to the boring movie. He had to lift my hand in front of my face for me to even notice! I couldn’t scream or get excited since we were in the show surrounded by a field trip of kids.”
“He is from Wyoming and I am from western Washington, so when he came to meet my family we took a day and went to the beach. He wrote “will you marry me?” In the sand at sunset. I had no idea he had a ring in his pocket all day!”
“In my room, in the middle of the night, he showed up (drove 5 hours) with a McFlurry in one hand and a ring box in the other. I said yes to both!”